I dont Know what to do concerning this divorce?

Question by wisam: I dont Know what to do concerning this divorce?
I have been married for 5 years and have a daughter that is 3 years old , I am really confused because I cant let go of my husband although I know that he doesnt care about me enough to stay in this marriage , I come from a middle eastern country where a divorced women is viewed as a low creature …i dont have major issues with my husband but my problem is that he listens to his father , who dictates his life for him , he seldom has any say in his decisions although they effect me more than they effect him , his father does not express his dislike of me although it is apparent and my husband is in complete denial of this !!! he always uses the pretext that his father is sick and he has to do what he says , eventhough it leads my daughter to live away from her father , I know that he doesnt deserve us but I am in love with and I think that things between us would be better if he didnt have a father …please help me I m going through a very bad time what can help me adjust
I have already left him what I need is help in adjusting to my new situation , my daughter does not eat and she is very grouchy and asks for her father
his loyalty to his father never bothered me and it still doesnt but its his father’s interference in my life , even in my work , which is bothering me it is one thing to let your husband control the things you do or want to do , but to have his father do it for him ? even if I do live in the Middle East

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Answer by Let love be your guide
Nothing can help you adjust, you are married to a mouse, not a man, men have strength of character, they do not act like mice in front of their fathers. He is weak, pathetic, useless and abusive, and you have low self esteem!!!

It is time for you to become the strong one and stop being used, divorce is not good, but then again it is totally against God to stay around and be abused and used. Your happiness is most important and you will never be happy in this life, and why is your daughter not the most important part of your life, if she was you would have left a long time ago, your daughter will see you as weak and pathetic unless you get some self esteem and strength of character. Stop being a door mat, stop being walked all over, if he wants a divorce, then tell him okay, be strong and let him know you are strong, you are being abused and used and you are allowing it.

Grow up!!!

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i have to do a career project and i want to be a relationship therapist but i dont really know what they do an?

Question by 315cuti: i have to do a career project and i want to be a relationship therapist but i dont really know what they do an?
i want to know what they do and everything.
also can i have a few stories on how they helped you.
if they helped you.

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Answer by Jimmy G
Relationship Therapist, Relationship Counselor, Couples Counseling, Marriage Counselor, Relationship Therapist… You can just mix and match and choose as you please!

Your ‘other’ comes home from work, and heads straight for the bottle of vodka stashed in the freezer. You haven’t had a real conversation for weeks. A few arguments over money or late nights out, sure, but no heart-to-hearts. Sex? What’s that?

GUESS WHAT?

Your relationship is on the rocks, and you both know it. But you aren’t sure how to fix things — or if you really want to. With ‘help’ from the right people, you can recognize the problems you two are facing and either find your answer by parting seperate ways… or THEY can help you understand your relationship better and make a well-thought-out decision on what to do.

THAT IS WHEN THEY CALL YOU!

As far as a career project, throw down an improv… an act.. get a few friends dress them up and tell them to act badly. Pretend to help them, sit them down run them through the usual and have them kiss and make-up.. Points for creativity and productivity.

Honestly, if you are looking to follow this for life, do your research… and if you still love the idea of helping them out and watching couples walk away happy, GOOD LUCK. i am sure anyone would be lucky!

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Why don’t schools ever talk about the white slaves like the Irish?

Question by Tai: Why don’t schools ever talk about the white slaves like the Irish?
I’m not talking about “inedtured servents” but real slaves, in it’s very definition.

The African slave trade was just beginning during about the same timeframe.
African slaves were very expensive during the late 1600s (50 Sterling). Irish slaves came cheap (no more than 5 Sterling). If a planter whipped or branded or beat an Irish slave to death, it was never a crime. A death was a monetary setback, but far cheaper than killing a more expensive African.

During the 1650s, over 100,000 Irish children between the ages of 10 and 14 were taken from their parents and sold as slaves in the West Indies, Virginia and New England. In this decade, 52,000 Irish (mostly women and children) were sold to Barbados and Virginia. Another 30,000 Irish men and women were also transported and sold to the highest bidder. In 1656, Cromwell ordered that 2000 Irish children be taken to Jamaica and sold as slaves to English settlers.

From 1641 to 1652, over 500,000 Irish were killed by the English and another 300,000 were sold as slaves. Ireland’s population fell from about 1,500,000 to 600,000 in one single decade. Families were ripped apart as the British did not allow Irish dads to take their wives and children with them across the Atlantic. This led to a helpless population of homeless women and children. Britain’s solution was to auction them off as well.

There were horrible abuses of both African and Irish captives. One British ship even dumped 1,302 slaves into the Atlantic Ocean so that the crew would have plenty of food to eat.

sorry i had a little copy/pasta
http://afgen.com/forgotten_slaves.html

but anyway, even if you ever go to the West Indies the brown light-skinned people you see are most likely combination of Irish and African, and even Chinese cuz I heard about chinese slaves too(which they never taught in my school). and people like to say “Oh that’s white rape blood if you’re light skinned” ummn no, who’s to say that it wasn’t some Irish slave back in the 1600s or 1700s that got it on with an African slave? Chinese, African, and white slaves all have brought up what some people look like today.

I seriously have never been taught about white slaves(and i live in SC) OR chinese slaves until I read about it outside of school. thats messed upp…
my ancestry has Irish and I never knew this.. i mean i’m part chinese/okinawan too but thats cuz my grandma is from hawaii and they were actual labour workers under contracts…
i can’t belive it.. all this time i’ve been told only about african slaves..
LOL vivi

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Answer by Austin w
dam i had no idea there were white slaves

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Why don’t women respond to emails (online dating)?

Question by nyc31: Why don’t women respond to emails (online dating)?
I just started with online dating and am wondering why so many women have not responded to my emails/messages. I tend to find it very easy to date co-workers or people that know me in person. Just wondering if anyone has any tips.

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Answer by Paul can be the name
maybe because they dont want to reply…

dude of your finding chicks out in the real world why do u need to online date???

i hav no tips, because its up to the woman if she wants to reply or not, dont take it to heart, its the internet, try not to misinterpret this as women dont like you ok!?

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The Three “R’s” of ONLINE DATING – Don’t Date Anyone You Meet Unless They Can PASS The Three “R’s”…

The Three “R’s” of ONLINE DATING – Don’t Date Anyone You Meet Unless They Can PASS The Three “R’s”…

If you’re looking for a long term and committed relationship using the internet you need to know what to look for amongst the thousands of other people online all claiming to be looking for a partner too.

Online dating is a great way to meet a wide variety of people with no geographical limits. And there are many normal, sincere people just like you looking for a new relationship online (I know – because I met one!). But it also means you can’t really tell what someone is like and what they are about – or can you?

Before you even consider meeting up with someone you’ve made contact with online, you need to check that the person meets certain basic criteria for being a prospective long-term partner. I call these “The Three R’s of Online Dating”. First, they need to be Ready for a long-term relationship. Second, they need to be Real in their identity and intentions. And thirdly, they must be Respectful of you as a human being. It doesn’t matter how much the person seems to match your profile or how attractive you find them – if they can’t pass the Three R’s of Online Dating then they are a bad bet for any kind of long term relationship.

These Three R’s apply regardless of any other aspects of a person’s appearance or character that may be important for you as an individual. If a person passes the Three R’s, there is still no guarantee that you are right for each other – but you will have avoided wasting your time with people who are definitely wrong for you.

The good news is that once you are aware of these factors, you can then relatively easily check by looking for telltale warning signals and asking the right kind of questions. If you know what to look for it’s surprising how much you can tell from the way someone has completed their online profile or what they say in those first few emails.

NB – Throughout, I use “they” to denote either “he” or “she” as relevant to yourself.
If you’re looking for a long term and committed relationship using the internet you need to know what to look for amongst the thousands of other people online all claiming to be looking for a partner too.

Online dating is a great way to meet a wide variety of people with no geographical limits. And there are many normal, sincere people just like you looking for a new relationship online (I know – because I met one!). But it also means you can’t really tell what someone is like and what they are about – or can you?

Before you even consider meeting up with someone you’ve made contact with online, you need to check that the person meets certain basic criteria for being a prospective long-term partner. I call these “The Three R’s of Online Dating”. First, they need to be Ready for a long-term relationship. Second, they need to be Real in their identity and intentions. And thirdly, they must be Respectful of you as a human being. It doesn’t matter how much the person seems to match your profile or how attractive you find them – if they can’t pass the Three R’s of Online Dating then they are a bad bet for any kind of long term relationship.

These Three R’s apply regardless of any other aspects of a person’s appearance or character that may be important for you as an individual. If a person passes the Three R’s, there is still no guarantee that you are right for each other – but you will have avoided wasting your time with people who are definitely wrong for you.

The good news is that once you are aware of these factors, you can then relatively easily check by looking for telltale warning signals and asking the right kind of questions. If you know what to look for it’s surprising how much you can tell from the way someone has completed their online profile or what they say in those first few emails.

NB – Throughout, I use “they” to denote either “he” or “she” as relevant to yourself.

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my friend e-mailed me a few pictures of myself i dont know how to post them on american singles that i joined!

Question by kuddlykitty931: my friend e-mailed me a few pictures of myself i dont know how to post them on american singles that i joined!

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Answer by dottii
not about question! been trying to contact you all day about mark of the beast. my dsl server is kookoo and will not let me answer.

answer my q again using just ‘re: mark’and see if i can reply.

frustrated-‘dotti’

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How to Know Secrets Online Matchmakers Don’t Want You to Know with Dr. Jeanine Coach to the Stars

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