My husband had a profile on a dating website and other internet secrets. Should I stay with him?

Question by Brokenhearted: My husband had a profile on a dating website and other internet secrets. Should I stay with him?
I found out my husband had a profile to meet women on hotornot. We have been together for 12 years and married for 10. He was looking for friends to have sex with, it was obvious from the text he wrote under his picture. He also mentioned in there he had good stamina and liked viagra.. To me that says it all besides the fact that he wanted to find friends to meet up whenever he is back in the states (we are living overseas right now but he is going back for business a couple times a year)….I confronted him and he deleted it and his explanation was he ‘was just having fun and f””’ing with people and didnt mean it like that. I also know of a social network profile he apparently had for years and on which he put his status as single. he had some older women on there writing him things like Hey my sexy friend…. I confronted him about it and he deleted these women from his profile and changed his status to married… Then I found out he had a email friendship with a girl for 10 years since we have been married and this girl thought the whole time he was single…. They never met up to have sex although he wanted to before we were married but she didnt go. She never knew about me and his marriage. Since then they just had email contact maybe once or twice a year. This was a huge blow to me because even though they didnt have sex I felt such Betrayal. Recently I found out my husband was or still is very interested in prostitutes and he was on countless websites for sexhouses here in asia where we live. and also he was looking into private online ads from prostitutes in the US. And he even looked up on google maps where these girls are locacted at. After I found that out I left him. Now all we do is fight on the telephone. He wants me back , loves me and swears he never acted on ANY of these things i found out. I am soo torn ! I know he cheated on me before we were married , countless times with many girls. I still married him because I loved him so and he swore he would never do it again. So far I didnt have any reason to believe he had-has an affair. But all these Internet secrets I found out about him broke my trust. I know he went to a massage parlor where they gave him a handjob. He swore to me it wasnt more than that. I forgave him for that years ago. Now I see he is looking into more than massage parlors . he was looking at the girls and the prices , the system and also on the internationalsexguide website where men write about where to go to get sex. Everything in my body and mind says he did cheat on me or will do it ! But he has the gift of changing my mind and making me believe i am crazy and he really didnt do anything. And the love he feels for me , and that he will do anything to make me stay with him . Everyday I am changing my mind . Do I stay with him or do I divorce him?? My plane back to him is leaving in 4 days . I dont know what do do. I booked only a roundtrip because I needed time to think. but I still dont know. thanks for reading !

Best answer:

Answer by priv828
divorce him. I’m surprised his d*c hasn’t fallen off yet

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What do you think of my online dating profile ads?

Question by Hammy The great: What do you think of my online dating profile ads?
Critic? Be honest please,
What is lacking/ what should I add more?
Thank you
Absolutely 10pts
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Hey I’m 25 yo gay man and right now I’m a post graduate from Technical College working as a freelance graphic designer artist.
I’m looking for independent relationship with a guy who understand his personal boundary and my personal boundary, who respect each other privacy and territory and willing to merge our world by consideration and mutual understanding, not a rule.
relationship is not about excessive sex. I have high sex drive, lets pour it out in our honeymoon period, I can be the raunchiest, sweetest yet safest guy you ever known, who knows your turn on and I will taking care of your territory carefully. When the honeymoon period is over, we are back to reality or our mundane business and I hope you don’t have problem in that transition.
You love me like I love you and we are together.. bond in trust. We connect telepathically and I trust you not to do any harm based on my instinct. I don’t have to do silly investigation job like a loony. I will talk to you directly when I feel something wrong. There is no secret swept under the rug.

When I love you, doesn’t mean I possess you. You are free to enjoying your life to the full extend, you are free to pursue your life path. However, DO NOT INCLUDE me when you have legal problem or law problem. It’s a deal-breaker there. Money can be granted as a gift and generosity, not a full liability.I won’t help you when you go downhill, it’s all by your responsibility. Yet, I will be available for the best emotional support, solution and caring that I can give when you are in the bad situation.

I have my own code of conduct but it doesn’t mean I’m a tight ass but if I can prefer what kind of lifestyle that I want with my guy; I want us to be simple minded,humble, down to earth and sensible. We hardly waste things and we are living under harmonious budget. Of course the opposite of that is to become greedy and excessive, something I always avoid.Oh! And if you are a carpenter, that is a plus. 😉 +++
I’m looking for a long term partner, a guy who love me to the length of time because I know that I can do the same way.
I want to cultivate my quality for the special someone because
2 is better than one. I promise not the leave you away from your side when you frail and old. If you follow through..
Until the end of time.

Best answer:

Answer by rob z
Desperate and a little conceded

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Here is what I’m gonna put in about me section in my online dating profile?

Question by Hammy The great: Here is what I’m gonna put in about me section in my online dating profile?
I won’t state my physical traits since I’m not looking at here
currently I’m 24 yo
I will joining dating site 2 years later when I have my steady job
so here’s my summary: ~~***~~
Hey I’m 26 yo gay man and right now I’m a post graduate from Technical College working as a freelance graphic designer artist.
I’m looking for independent relatinship with a guy who understand his personal boundary and my personal boundary, who respect each other privacy and territory and willing to merge our world by consideration and mutual understanding, not a rule.
relationship is not about excessive sex. I have high sex drive, lets pour it out in our honeymoon period, I can be the raunchiest, sweetest yet safest guy you ever known, who knows your turn on and I will taking care of your territory carefuly. When the honeymoon period is over, we are back to reality or our mundane business and I hope you dont have problem in that transition.
You love me like I love you and we are together.. bond in trust. We connect telephatically and I trust you not to do any harm based on my instinct. I don’t have to do silly investigation job like a looney. I will talk to you directly when I feel something wrong. There is no secret swept under the rug.

When I love you, doesn’t mean I possess you. You are free to enjoying your life to the full extend, you are free to pursue your life path. However, DO NOT INCLUDE me when you have legal problem or law problem. It’s a deal-breaker there. Money can be granted as a gift and generosity, not a full liability.I won’t help you when you go downhill, it’s all by your responsibility. Yet, I will be available for the best emotional support, solution and caring that I can give when you are in the bad situation.

I’m looking for a long term partner, a guy who love me to the length of time because I know that I can do the same way.
I want to cultivate my quality for the special someone because
2 is better than one. I promise not the leave you away from your side when you frail and old. If you follow through..
Until the end of time.

Ok, what do you guys think? Critic? I really appreciate it, thank you.

Best answer:

Answer by Derek
I’m 25. It sounds good but you may not feel this way in two years.

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What would you suggest for an online dating profile headline that would be an attention grabber?

Question by Jay: What would you suggest for an online dating profile headline that would be an attention grabber?
I’m not getting as many matches as I would like, and I think a creative title would draw more people to my profile…

Best answer:

Answer by Sarah
Hey, http://flinghotties.com has a really good article about setting up your online dating profile..hope it helps, good luck

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What did you write on your online dating profile that you thnk caught the eyes of the ladies that lookd at it?

Question by Sergio: What did you write on your online dating profile that you thnk caught the eyes of the ladies that lookd at it?
This is a question for guys who have been on online dating sites and have been rather successful at finding girls on there. Thanks for your help!

Best answer:

Answer by Edward D
Humor – something that made them smile. Not in a stupid “wanna hear a joke way” though.

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Ladies only: What kind of dating site profile would help a guy?

Question by square smiley: Ladies only: What kind of dating site profile would help a guy?
Ladies only: What kind of dating site profile would help a guy?

Best answer:

Answer by Rain
A profile with good recent pictures, that describes yourself and your interests in a simple but informative way. Good Luck! These are 2 excellent dating sites.. http://www.itsrainingmates.com/ and http://www.cupidschosen.com/

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