Dating tips for women

Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: A Step-by-Step Guide to Help You Decide Whether to Stay In or Get Out of Your Relationship

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Drawing on case studies, a psychotherapist offers guidelines to help singles and spouses decide whether to leave a relationship or whether enough good remains to make it worth working through conflicts. Reprint.”

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Question by Bk T: Asking divorced women about this, any help would be appreciated.?
I was starting a relationship with a woman who was a good friend and was getting a divorce. We got along great, but we had to be discreet because of pending divorce,ect. Now she is divorced and she attacked everything about me and dumped me. She says that I only wanted the good and not the bad, and that she is afraid her ex will tell her young son about how we met, ect. She dumped me and now is running around dating on the internet because she says that she doesn’t want to settle down, she wants to live life to the fullest. She says she loves me but timing is everything and its not our time. I am obviously crushed because this went on for 2 years and now she wont have anything to do with me. She tells me she is being selfish and that she is trying to find a guy like me but wont take me because of her kid finding out about us ect. Whats going on? I want to repair our friendship but I think she is too far gone.
I spoke with her ex husband and she called him and yelled at him telling him he is the reason we are not together. He said she told him that we would be together but he was going to tell their son how they met. This was the day after Valentines.

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Answer by DJ
Let her go. She’s flighty, on the rebound and doesn’t want to be tied down. She’ll come down to earth soon enough. Don’t wait around for her, but do stand back; she’s got CRASH written all over her and you’ll want to steer clear of the debris.

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Question by rcallaby: What is the best way to help my friend find a new job?
I am trying to help friend find a new job in his field and I am using social networking sites such as LinkedIn and others. Do you know of some others where I can network and help him out? I am doing this as friend as also to network with others.

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Answer by Alijah S
hunting for a job is tough, especially if it’s ages since you previously did it! I was jobless over the past few weeks, but I stumbled upon the website in the box below which showed me how to earn cash from my pc. Now I work when I want to – I went with SMC, a company sponsored by Tom Boswell of Happy Days (Howard Cunningham).

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Question by Michael S: Trying to help a plus-sized friend find durable pants for work?
I’m trying to help a plus-sized friend find Dickies-type pants so that he can get a job at a restaurant that requires such attire, but I’m having trouble finding anywhere that has his size in a brand that will hold up well. He’s needing black pants, about a 72-inch waist and 38-inch pant length. Any information any of you could provide would be greatly appreciated.

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Answer by musicmends
why not go on the dickies website?

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Question by David H: How do I help my Romanian girl friend find her birth parents?
My girl friend was adopted from a Romanian orphanage when she was four and has lived in england for about 16 years now. Recently she has decided to try and find her birth parents and i really want to help her with this.
I realise it’s going to be a challenge as she was abandoned at the orphanage aged 11days but does anybody have any ideas how we could go about finding them?

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Answer by THE REAL ROGUE – is on level 5
Put an ad in the personal column to say she has won lotto. She will get heaps of people saying they are her parents!

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Question by HONEY: Where/how can I help single parents??? (in New York City)?
I’m only 23 and not rich myself. But I thought..at least I have my bf and we are “managing” thru this economy. Neither one of us have a degree or even a stable job but we are making it.
I was thinking the other day, I know people say single parents can get assistance, but the truth is, there are many of them who don’t qualify simply because they are in the “middle”. They actually want to further themselves and make what the gov’t calls “too much money”..when in reality we all can see it’s hardly enough to keep them above the poverty line.
I feel bad for single parents because many men and women have simply had their partners leave them and they are trying to do the righteous thing and support themselves and their children.
Soo….does anyone know how I can help those “in between” parents…or even the ones who are on welfare but are desperate to get off it and onto their feet. I live in NYC, so if you have any ideas that even relate to this I would love to know.

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Answer by LJ
While I don’t have specific suggestions, why don’t you try contacting the Children’s Aid Society?

They would probably have some good ideas of what you can do to help. Perhaps they even have a program that would allow you to volunteer some time (and/or perhaps some money.)

I think it is wonderful that you want to help. I hope you find a way to do so.

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Question by askme: How can a relationship therapist help me if my spouse refuses to speak to a “stranger”?
She feels we can solve our problems on our own, but nothing is ever solved. It is something I feel we need.

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Answer by Nicole m
i believe the therapist could help but not if he isnt willing to make it work. good luck
divorce is hard

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Event highlights groups, activities that help keep community safe


Image by USAG-Humphreys
HUMPHREYS GARRISON – About 200 members of the USAG-Humphreys Community attended Family Safety Day, held in the vicinity of the Community Activity Center, here, May 22.
The event, hosted by the Installation Safety Office, featured information booths from various community organizations, a Fire Department-themed bouncy house and slide for children, a cookout, and prize giveaways.
Among the organizations that participated were: Army and Air Force Exchange Service, Army Substance Abuse Program, United Service Organizations, Drug Abuse Resistance Education, and the Korean Diabetes Association.
In honor of Bicycle Safety Month, AAFES representative, Tom Reid, discussed the importance of wearing protective gear while riding a bicycle. At his booth, children and parents watched a video that demonstrated the effects of body and brain injuries when not wearing a helmet. The booth also displayed helmets, other protective gear, such as reflective vests and belts, and registration forms that people can fill out to ride a bicycle on base.
At another booth, the Korean Diabetic Association from Pyeongtaek International Hospital, tested people’s blood pressure and blood sugar.
The event, which is usually held in June, was held earlier this year to help prepare community members before summer arrives.
At the event’s conclusion, children received prizes such as bicycles, helmets, protective wear, and water guns.
In addition to the Safety Day activities, the Safety Office hosted a grand opening of its Motorcycle Training course.
Anyone interested in any of the garrison’s Army Training Safety Training program courses – Basic Riders Course, Experienced Riders Course, Military Sport Riders Course, Intermediate Drivers Course or Remedial Drivers training – should visit www.ridesafe.kr for class dates or call 753-5583 or 753-5580 for more information.

U.S. Army photos by Pfc. Georgina Gray, Pfc. Steven Ho, Jessica Ryan and Lee, Hye-young

For more information on U.S. Army Garrison Humphreys and living and working in Korea visit: USAG-Humphreys’ official web site or check out our online videos.

Event highlights groups, activities that help keep community safe


Image by USAG-Humphreys
HUMPHREYS GARRISON – About 200 members of the USAG-Humphreys Community attended Family Safety Day, held in the vicinity of the Community Activity Center, here, May 22.
The event, hosted by the Installation Safety Office, featured information booths from various community organizations, a Fire Department-themed bouncy house and slide for children, a cookout, and prize giveaways.
Among the organizations that participated were: Army and Air Force Exchange Service, Army Substance Abuse Program, United Service Organizations, Drug Abuse Resistance Education, and the Korean Diabetes Association.
In honor of Bicycle Safety Month, AAFES representative, Tom Reid, discussed the importance of wearing protective gear while riding a bicycle. At his booth, children and parents watched a video that demonstrated the effects of body and brain injuries when not wearing a helmet. The booth also displayed helmets, other protective gear, such as reflective vests and belts, and registration forms that people can fill out to ride a bicycle on base.
At another booth, the Korean Diabetic Association from Pyeongtaek International Hospital, tested people’s blood pressure and blood sugar.
The event, which is usually held in June, was held earlier this year to help prepare community members before summer arrives.
At the event’s conclusion, children received prizes such as bicycles, helmets, protective wear, and water guns.
In addition to the Safety Day activities, the Safety Office hosted a grand opening of its Motorcycle Training course.
Anyone interested in any of the garrison’s Army Training Safety Training program courses – Basic Riders Course, Experienced Riders Course, Military Sport Riders Course, Intermediate Drivers Course or Remedial Drivers training – should visit www.ridesafe.kr for class dates or call 753-5583 or 753-5580 for more information.

U.S. Army photos by Pfc. Georgina Gray, Pfc. Steven Ho, Jessica Ryan and Lee, Hye-young

For more information on U.S. Army Garrison Humphreys and living and working in Korea visit: USAG-Humphreys’ official web site or check out our online videos.

Question by Stormy: Very depressed – my mom’s boyfriend/husband has driven a wedge between us! Other divorced women/kids, help!!?
This is a bit long, but could use some advice from divorcee moms or daughters who dealt with divorce as older children. This issue is tearing my relationship with my mom apart.

I encouraged my mom to divorce my dad about 6 years ago and am now regretting it. I was seventeen, and my parents had a horrible relationship, and my Dad was always angry and made everyone’s life miserable… and my mom was always gone, so I encouraged her to divorce him. And I am now regretting it sorely… that they didn’t at least try counseling first, because neither sorted through their issues and both have been making bad choices ever since.

My mom aimed low and met a guy at a bar who is around age 43 (I think – never been able to get a straight answer). My mom is 59 but looks good for her age. I tried to be optimistic but my warning vibes went up from the start and I tried to discourage her from getting too serious. The new guy, “Larry”, is not good with money, raised his kids entirely different than my folks raised my brother and I and comes with a history. This is a small city and the word is that he goes after older women and bleeds them for money. In the beginning, every time I met this man I met another one of his children… most by different women, and there’s at least 5 or 6. They are around my age (I’m 23) and his son’s have been arrested for stealing cars and other delinquency and his daughters are/were all teen mothers.
The behavior with regard to his children is something I especially could not understand, because my mother raised my brother and I with such high goals, and to do well and be respectful, that to get pregnant as a teenager or to get arrested is just completely unheard of in my house. Yet she somehow now treats his sons like it’s funny that they drink heavily and get into trouble. It’s not a big deal all of a sudden.

This man quickly drove a wedge between my mother and I and I ended up moving out of her house (a strain on me, because I’m struggling with university) and he moved right into my mother’s house with his youngest daughter. My mom threw all of my things out of my room and moved his seventeen year old daughter in, which was extremely hurtful. She proceeded to bring guys home and have sex in my mom’s bed, and got pregnant shortly thereafter, but that is besides the point.

A few things set off more red flags about this relationship besides Larry’s history and my mother’s emotional vulnerability. They were away in a nearby city for the night and had a fight and Larry took her car and took off. My mother had to call a family member to come and pick her up in the middle of the night 2 hours away. She was also very guarded with what she would tell me about him, almost overly-sensitive that I would be critical. Things she kept from me were his drinking, problems with his children, fights, she pretty much wanted me to think he was an angel.

Last Christmas, my mother was ready to leave him, and admitted to me that “they’re using me for money and I’ve had enough”. Shortly thereafter my grandmother (her mother) died, and they got back together and everything was hunky dory. Then, they get married a few weeks ago. My mother, who swore she wouldn’t marry again, decided to marry Larry.

For my own sanity, I did not go to the wedding. I no longer go to her home as it is too painful for me and I don’t want to start a fight. I don’t wish to have my life shared with theirs.

My mother and I have not spoken regularly for two years now and it is driving me into a deep depression. She has recently begun to call me again, insisting she is a good parent. I feel emotionally abandoned and could really use her support because I am having a hard, lonely time at university.

I believe this man is keeping her from coming to see me without him present. He used to call to check up on her constantly when I still lived at her house (when they were dating). I believe he is encouraging her that if I don’t accept the marriage that she should not see me.

I have told her that as long as she is happy, then that’s what matters. But I have told her I will not break bread with Larry and his family. I can’t do it.

My question is… am I being unreasonable? Or am I rightfully trying to protect myself in this situation? Is there a better way to handle this? I feel very depressed right now and my sense of reality and what is normal is completely thrown off-skew.
I wish my mother would at least come to see me once in a while… is it unreasonable of me to expect to see her without Larry present?
I should add that other family members are also suspicious of this man. My grandmother didn’t think he was a good person and my aunt also refused to go to the wedding.
Thanks everyone for the answers so far. The outside perspective is really helpful.

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Answer by scary
you are stubborn and want it your way. Everyone comes with baggage you just have to get used to it or forget it.

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