Online Dating Chat: Finding Friends in Cyberspace
The Internet has grown phenomenally since its inception and it seems that there is nothing that you can obtain in real life that you cannot also get in cyberspace. And so it is with romance. Thousands of people who have discovered online dating chat websites have been able to find their true love; many more have made new friends or just enjoy having a good time online. If you’re thinking of getting your feet wet in the pool of online dating chat services, then let’s take a look at what you need to keep in mind.
Determine Your Objectives
Are you seeking a long-term relationship, a casual affair or an uncomplicated friendship? Do you want to limit your search to your own location, or do you wish to increase your chances of success by expanding your search area? Defining your goals is important if you want to achieve results in anything you do, and online dating is no different.
Find Your Website
Once you’ve determined what it is that you want, it’s time to go and find the online dating chat site that will suit your needs. Doing a web search with search terms for the service that you require on any of the major search engines should yield a good number of related websites. Searching for “online dating chat” on Google.com for instance, gives you over 35 million results to choose from as well as a healthy number of sponsored listings.
Post Your Profile
Whichever websites you select, when you register with them you will need to submit a personal profile and many sites also offer the option of posting a photo. Keep in mind that the quality of your profile and picture is key in attracting the kind of person that you seek. Write positively about yourself and be honest. Give people enough information to tweak their curiosity, without making your profile so long that it puts them off, or too short so that they don’t have enough information and write you off anyway. There are literally hundreds of relevant profiles to browse and sometimes you can’t see the trees for the wood, so you have to keep yours interesting. If the website allows you to post a photo, then do so. A profile with a good photo always attracts more attention than a profile without.
Keep it Safe
To keep your online dating chats enjoyable, you need to be aware that cyberspace harbors good guys as well as bad guys – just like real life. The person you are chatting with may not be who they say they are – role playing is commonplace. To many people, chatting is just another form of entertainment and they may not be looking for any kind of relationship at all, let alone a serious one. Chatting also draws out the socially awkward who may prefer to stay online and never meet you in person, no matter how well you connect on the Internet. Be careful to whom you disclose personal information – your real name, home and work addresses and phone numbers shouldn’t be shared too soon. Trust your instincts and don’t be shy about breaking off an online friendship if you feel uneasy about it.
Don’t let the downside of online dating chat sites deter you from trying them out. Use your common sense, stay alert and you will not only increase your enjoyment, but you might also get lucky and find your soul mate in cyberspace… many brave men and women have gone before you!
Chonticha Marijne enjoys writing about the challenges and dynamics of online dating. She posts on her blog at http://creativedating.wordpress.com . This article is copyright © 2006 by Chonticha Marijne and may be reprinted in its entirety as long as both byline and copyright statement are included.