Cutting to the Heart of the Matter

For Therapists. At a recent Level 2 training, a clinician inquires about improving empathy and insight to better help struggling couples. The “Dan Wile” technique she mentions is from eminent couples therapist Daniel Wile, who developed a very successful method of exploring and rephrasing each partner’s viewpoint that helps clarify the vulnerabilities and hidden concerns partners have. Here John and Julie Gottman describe their different approaches to Wile’s method. You can see Julie demonstrating this technique in the clip called What Are They Really Saying? (Pardon the brief sound quality disruption.) For more info about the next Level 2 training visit