I don’t see how anyone would put more value to extra money than to their own children. But whatever, give me a thumbs down if you must because I am “traditional”…

If I did work, most of my income would probably go on paying for childcare, and I don’t really see the point of that. Why pay someone else to look after my children when I can do it myself?

Anyway, if people are so crazy about having careers, why would they want to retire early? I mean, what are they going to do with their retirement, without their precious careers to sustain them? What meaning will life have for them without the careers that are the main focus of their existence?

And I frankly haven’t noticed that men are all that enthusiastic about sharing equally in housework etc, judging by what I read on the Marriage and Divorce section on here, which is full of women moaning about how tired they are of having to do everything. Men are happy to have wives bringing in money, but less enthusiastic about chipping in on the domestic front. And working women seem to be frantically determined to be good ‘homemakers’ as well to prove how efficient they are, so they hardly seem to end up doing less housework than the stay-at-home housewife.

And if both husband and wife are working, it doesn’t mean that the man will see more of his children, it simply means that the woman will see less of the children. I don’t really see the point of that.

why are you so convinced that children are better off being looked after by strangers in daycare than being looked after by their own mothers? Does the welfare of the child interest you at all, or do you think that children just don’t matter? It may come as a shock to you, but even when children are at school they still have to be cared for after school, and in the holidays. What then?

Whether one parent is a SAHM or SAHD, or they split things, or trade off, or both work in order to put a roof over everyone’s head is up to the couple to decide through mutual agreement.

There’s certainly nothing wrong with a parent staying home with their little ones, when they can afford it (which is increasingly rare).

However- most certainly one can raise their children to have good values whether they both work or not. We did. Of course we were partners in raising our children.

My husband says he appreciates that he can spend time with his daughter and so many men cant. He helps out with feeds, does housework and spends quality time as a family. we love it and i wouldnt have it any other way. I enjoy my job as does he. I only work 3 days and him 4 and the rest is family time.

my mum worked part time from when i was a baby and it means i am really close to my mum and dad. there are not many families as close as ours we see them everyday. I cant be without either of them.

i have also always been social and confident as i have been around other children from a young age.

I won’t tell anyone they should stay home and I won’t tell anyone they should both work.

It is a family’s decision.

I, for one, can barely carry the load of a 40+ hour week, commute, cooking and cleaning, social obligations, family functions, etc. with just the two of us (yes, he pulls his weight but it’s still hard). But if you threw a baby into the mix.. something would have to give.

So the short and sweet version of your theory is practice extreme selfishness and keep my fingers crossed that my children will be “fine”. …….No thanks.